PHOTO NUMBER THIRTY-THREE
When I was trying to think of a caption when I posted this photo on Instagram, I came across a quote by Oscar Wilde.
"Never love anybody who treats your like you're ordinary."
This stuck with me for quite a bit. I think it is important to be aware of the kind of love that we deserve. Honestly, dating is the worst. I hated every second of it. The whole thing is awkward because you don't really know who you are. You're running around trying to navigate what you like and don't like, on top of trying to figure out if you have the qualities someone else is looking for. In the end, if you aren't right for each other, it becomes a huge mess. My advice for anyone who is looking for a significant other, STOP LOOKING!! You will never find someone if you actively search for someone. You are setting yourself up for failure. You might meet an amazing person, but because you made a stupid list in your head of what characteristics your ideal person should or shouldn't have, you pick them apart. Life isn't the SIMS people. You can't just build your dream guy and then wait until he comes walking down the street. People have flaws. You have flaws. Why do you get to pick apart someone else but it's offensive when they do it to you? The moment you stop looking, you open yourself up to not only learn how to be alone, but to truly learn what it means to love yourself. If you don't love yourself first, how is anyone else supposed to love you? You'll be constantly altering yourself to try to fit the other person's expectations. You want to be with someone who treats you like you're extraordinary even when you feel like you aren't.
Rob and Olivia are two people who are very much in love. You can tell from the way they look at each other and interact. They talk like best friends and are always laughing together. I think they are such a good example of what love should be like. Love is messy and ugly and it's imperfect, but that's what makes it beautiful. When two people decide to stop caring about what others think, and have already learned how to love themselves, the rest is magic.